I have in my files a copy of a letter written by Major Sullivan Ballou, a Union officer in the 2nd Rhode Island. He writes to his wife on the eve of the Battle of Bull Run, a battle he senses will be his last. He speaks tenderly to her of his undying love, of “the memories of blissful moments I have spent with you.” Ballou mourns the thought that he must give up “the hope of future years, when, God willing, we might still have lived and loved together, and seen our sons grown up to honorable manhood around us.”
How Ice Fishing Exposed The Need For More Margin In My Life
I am a father, a grandfather, I lead a technology team, I am the founder of Heartstone Journey, I am working on various projects and I am a leader in the men’s ministry at our church…just to name a few things I do. I seemingly have been managing my work-life balance a bit better and not feeling overly stressed these days, but God started to reveal that I need a bit more margin in my life to unplug.
Recently I had an opportunity to head outdoors for some ice fishing with the guys from the men’s ministry. I immediately went into what I had queued up for the weekend and focusing on the needs of others. At first glance, you might think…”What’s wrong with that,” right?
Warning: Striving Is A Cultural Lie!
We have bought into a culture that demands an instant fix and that convinces us that our way is the best way! Over time, this becomes an automatic response, like breathing, and we blindly strive to satisfy this intense, cultural lie. This striving robbed me of my ability to rest and enjoy life’s moments, and for much of my life, I struggled with this. No matter what I did or where I went, something would entangle me and pull me into restlessness. I would later learn through months of counseling that I was stuck in a pattern of trying to fix the relationship between my mom and my dad, a kid still believing that somehow I could still fix it. This pattern became so embedded in my psyche that I convinced myself that if I couldn’t fix their relationship, it somehow made me a failure. God will never give up on us because He loves us—we are the ones who give up on Him! I’m glad I didn’t give up.
Warning: Bible Thumping Is Hazardous To People’s Health
Wikipedia defines a “Bible thumper” as someone perceived as aggressively imposing their Christian beliefs upon others. The term derives from preachers thumping their hands down on the Bible, or thumping the Bible itself, to emphasize a point during a sermon. The term’s target domain is broad and can often extend to anyone engaged in a public show of religion, fundamentalist or not. The term is most commonly used in English-speaking countries.
We have all experienced a good bible thumping haven’t we? How did the experience effect you?
The Best of 2013
The new year has come and it feels like only yesterday that I was writing my 2012 year in review. Wow, where has the year gone? Since my last year in review a lot has happened on Heartstone Journey and in my own life. There is so much I could share, but here are some highlights: