If I were to ask you to talk about feedback, what would would you share? Are you a person who likes to receive feedback or give feedback?

Relationship is a connection between two people that may range from brief to lasting. Types of relationships vary from family, friendship, marriage, collegial, business, etc.

We are relational and need feedback. We need to know how we are doing with each other. How we are affecting each other. The process of ongoing feedback helps us navigate the complex space of learning to be in a relationship that keeps growing and evolving. Some people are OK with feedback and some don’t even no where to start.

I attended a leadership seminar and one of the segments was on giving effective feedback and I learned a good tool that I thought I would share. Asking these four simple questions may open the door to a good conversation. It may also open the door to a tough conversation too, but I challenge you to give it a try.

Simply ask someone who you would like feedback from to “fill in the blanks” about you:

1) Continue __________

2) Start __________

3) Stop __________

4) Less of __________

5) Regarding [fill in the blank], if you were me what would you have done differently?

Remember, you can’t do anything with the information you DON’T have.

Share your thoughts? What would they say?